The mind filters incoming info based on expectations and therefore vague messages (redundant #1) are misinterpreted.
We’re often told to read between the lines, which can be dangerous if expectations are built into the reading. Some could argue that we can become more effective & successful (for the lack of better word) if we let go of expectations and start taking things as they come.
DeBono defines “Unhappiness” as the difference between... actually before I get into that, I want to tell you a short story.
The beast falls in love with the beauty, except the beauty’s sorted past makes her feel more a like a women’s tired old uterus, so she assumes he wouldn’t love her otherwise and keeps the past locked away, he assumes she’s an open book, as he is...
Forward some months and the locked away past starts to seep out and stinks up the relationship, things get ugly and all is lost. Beauty and beast, starts off as a romance novel and ends up a depressing epic (redundant #2).
“Unhappiness is the difference between one’s talents and their expectations” said one of the greatest philosophers of this century.
So why can’t we get rid of our expectations if they’re the seed of our unhappiness? The unconscious mind filters incoming data based on existing knowledge, in order to make sense of things, and where necessary, it fills in the gaps. The filling-in is based purely on expectations. That’s how the same event is seen by some as a miracle and by others as a coincidence.
I accept that... and I accept that the filtering of data (i.e. expectations) will lead to misunderstandings, disappointment, sadness and the cats and the cradle. So I wake up every morning expecting the world to be a better place. Cuz some expectations are worth the unhappiness attached, these are called HOPE.
What do you think?
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